Dimensions Weekly Mens Lifestyle Magazine

When a relationship ends, feelings are inevitably hurt. Depending on how long the two of you were together – and on how much drama ensued during that period of time – your breakup might even be downright ugly. Still, when it’s over, it’s over – right? Sadly, that’s not always the case. The fact is, some people have a really hard time letting go. Usually, it only takes a few weeks for any lingering aggravation to subside; every now and then, though, you’re faced with an honest-to-goodness stalker. If your ex-girlfriend has started stalking you, keep the following tips in mind and remember that DW has your back, always.

Why Do They Stalk?
Understanding why some people can’t let go can be difficult. Most of us want to move on with our lives, meet new people and be happy. For one reason or another, though, some people just can’t do that. In some cases, a woman just might enjoy keeping tabs on you for curiosity’s sake; in other cases, she genuinely wants to remain a part of your life and doesn’t care how creepy it makes her look. The stalking may be due to the fact that you’re truly awesome, or it could be triggered by some sort of mental illness – there’s no sure way to tell.

How Do They Stalk?
Back in the old days, the main things a stalker would do was drive by your house incessantly and call your over and over again. These days, stalking is much more insidious – and a heck of a lot easier, thanks to the Internet. Even if you delete her as a friend on Facebook, she can keep checking in on your Twitter feed. If you make that private, she might navigate over to your blog to see what you’re up to. If it feels like you just can’t win, it’s because you can’t – so you shouldn’t try.

Don’t Waste Your Time
The biggest thing that you need to keep in mind is that stalkers are fueled by your responses. Whether you respond negatively or positively, simply giving a stalker any form of attention eggs them on and makes them amp up the stalking. For instance, it may be tempting to write a nasty blog entry that is plainly about her; don’t. If you do, she’ll start visiting your blog fifty to sixty times a day and might even post nasty comments – do you really want to deal with that?

Ignore It
Unless your ex-girlfriend is genuinely freaking you out and seems like she might do something dangerous, the best thing to do is to ignore her. Don’t make your profiles private, and don’t respond to phone calls or emails. In fact, you should create a filter that automatically routes all of her emails to a separate folder. Out of sight, out of mind – it really does work, and it will keep you from inadvertently reading something that will set you off. Don’t play her little game, and chances are that she’ll eventually get bored and finally go get a life.

-DW | Dating & Sex

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